Patients & Waiters

Patients & Waiters belong to two different service industries. Nurses service patients in the Health Sector and Waiters serve customers in the Catering Trade.

Patience & Waiting, we are taught, go together. We learn that it is good manners to wait patiently because that is how we tolerate the inconvenience of having to wait. Waiting impatiently is a toleration that is becoming intolerable and is showing a lack of good etiquette.

Patients in hospital have no choice but to wait patiently for a nurse to take care of whatever they need. Customers in restaurants choose not to wait too long for a waiter to serve them. When a waiter causes a customer to wait longer than expected the customer complains, gets angry and displays the wrath of their displeasure. When a customer complains at having to wait too long to be served, the waiter is expected to be humble, meek & apologetic for the apparent poor service. When a nurse causes a patient to wait too long, the patient has no option but to be patient. The nurse diligently takes care to carry out her service with pride and decides when giving care to the patient is appropriate & convenient. The patient is required to be humble, as long as the nurse is seen to have humility; which is often confused with the nurse’s arrogance or indignation and the patient’s pride, which is called dignity.

As a society, we believe that everyone should be allowed to die with dignity even though a waiting patient’s indignity will test the patience of any nurse. Waiters are confronted with the indignity of complaining customers. Indignant customers are displeased when they run out of patience waiting for a waiter to give a standard of expected service that believed to be deserved.

In the control dramas of personal interaction, it is acceptable for a waiter to be aloof, when being interrogated by a customer, but it is not acceptable for a nurse to be an intimidator, when nursing a poor me patient.

There is nothing more intimidating, humiliating & embarrassing as having to be cared for by a nurse. There is nothing more intimidating than a poor waiter having to confront an angry customer who has run out of patience.

In my ideal world, everything is served up providentially in divine time and nobody ever has to wait patiently for anything. With faith in providence providing everything in divine time, there is no expectation of anything being either early or late. Without expectation there is no judgment, there is no controlling drama, there are no aloof waiters, there are no indignant customers, there are no proud nurses and there are no poor me patients.

Nobody is patiently waiting for God because everyone is enjoying everything that is being served up as a divine experience of an ideal life.

Dementia Is The Absence Of Presence

The sense that is absent with dementia is intuition. An intuitive sense is common to everyone but not normal for many. It is normal for most people to use only their five physical senses to override their three intuitive senses.

Our three intuitive senses are neither taught nor learned at school. Our rational education system is focused on developing a physical consciousness of the material world, not a spiritual awareness of our energetic reality. Awareness of an energetic spiritual reality is intuitive, not corporeal.

Dementia is not the absence of intuition but the absence of presence. Presence allows the awareness of what is energetically occurring in each and every moment of time, in the reality of our personal space.

Presence is the pre-sense of knowing that whatever is about to occur in our personal reality is beneficial. When my focused conscious mind is present, there is no projection into either my past or my future reality. There is no determination of what might happen based on my belief or experience of what has happened before.

The mental processor that is our brain allows our presence when it is still & at peace. This is a place or a space that we mentally visit when in a meditative state of mind. In that space of mental neutrality, there is no dementia, there is no loss of memory, there is no mental confusion, there is no fear and there is no worry or anxiety.

The presence of a meditative state of being is where the Soul connects with its conscious Self and where the ego sense of Self becomes aware of its higher state of consciousness. In the presence of my higher consciousness, there can be no mental incapacity.

Dementia can only occur when the ego is absent from the presence of the Soul but not necessarily because the Soul’s presence is absent from the perspective of the ego.

Disconnection from our spiritual Source happens normally by the time a child attends school. We all suffer from a relatively mild form of dementia from school age. We all have times when we forget things. We are taught to remember things by using diaries, daily planners, to-do lists and post-it notes. We use alarm clocks to remind ourselves to wake up in the morning. We wear a watch to remind us what time it is.

We run on other people’s time and other people’s deadlines. We are no longer tuned into the natural cycles of the planet or running on natural or divine time. We no longer have a personal sense of time flowing beneficially but have become slaves to following time constraints & schedules of our own appointment. It is only when on holiday that we have the occasional presence of mind to reflect on how demented our life appears to be.

One of the ironies of modern life is that the more successful we are in business, the more we need a secretary or a personal assistant to help us with our workload and remind us of whatever we have forgotten.

We all suffer from varying degrees of dementia throughout our life without it being seen as a problem. It is only when our mental state of Being becomes a problem to other people that other people seek a reason for our abnormally demented behaviour.

Mostly, we do not have the presence of mind to realise the levels of our own inspired or demented behaviour. Our Soul is always there to offer guidance & support, whether we are aware of it or not and whether we choose to take it or not. Our Soul connection is always present, even though our awareness of it may remain absent for all of our life. When our Soul’s presence is absent, so is our spiritual awareness. In the absence of our presence, there is no awareness of a unique, individual and exclusive connection with the higher consciousness of our spiritual Soul.

Dementia is one of the Soul’s ways of experiencing the extreme boundaries of our disconnection from Source. As the Soul connection becomes weaker & weaker, the potential for dementia becomes stronger & stronger.

From the ego’s perspective, dementia is a mental incapacity that happens to us. From the Soul’s higher perspective of the bigger picture of life, dementia is an opportunity to explore & discover the extremes of a spiritually disconnected experience called an absent life without presence.

Dementia Can Be A Joy Or A Misery

It is difficult to imagine how dementia can be a joy. It is easier to see what misery dementia can cause.

Misery is the scarcity of abundance. Abundance is the nature of the Soul. It is the disconnection of our Self from our Soul that causes our misery, because of our disconnection from our source of abundance. The experience of life disconnected from our source can be very miserable.

The Soul is abundantly joyful. It is my connection to the abundance of life that allows my life to be full of joy. Joy & misery are not a duality. That is to say, they are not contrasting extremes of the same energy vibration.

Joy is a pure wavelength of emotional happiness and there is no reason why anybody with dementia cannot be happy. The emotion of joy, when accompanied by mental fulfilment & physical contentment, allows inner happiness to flow into personal experience.

Happiness is a natural spiritual attribute that flows from our Inner Self or Soul Self. When I am with my Soul within, I am with happiness. When I am without contentment, fulfilment or joy, I am without my Soul connection and without my happiness, which is miserable.

Misery is the emotional state of being mentally unfulfilled & physically discontent. It is the emotional state of being unhappy.

In this relative world of dual reality, we experience relative states of misery & happiness, which are seen to be either painful or pleasurable.

Pain & pleasure are a duality of physical life, which are often confused with misery & joy. Pain is my disconnection from my emotional power. In my disconnection from my power, I seek physical pleasure to overcome the pain of my unawakened physical existence.

It is my disconnection from Source that causes my mental & emotional pain. It is my attachment to physical life that causes the effect of either pain or pleasure. I attach myself, in life, to whatever gives me pleasure, whilst trying to avoid whatever gives me pain. Life is relatively miserable when I only have a choice of pain or pleasure.

Joy is a pure vibration of emotional power from my Spiritual Source. Pleasure is an impure frequency of emotional energy that I obtain from an external physical source. When physical experience is fun, I feel the pleasure of being alive, because whatever I am doing is exciting & motivating.

Pleasure is not a pure wavelength of energy that is aligned with my Soul. My Soul flows with joy, whereas the ego seeks pleasure. Pleasure is not joyful but it is a positive energetic experience that is preferable to the negative experiences of life, which are painful.

There is no pain inherent with dementia, neither is there any pleasure. When misery is seen as the absence of pleasure, we try very hard to please people with dementia.

Pleasing other people can be very irritating & painful for them. Pain & pleasure are a duality of the same energy vibration. An emotional energy vibration can have a frequency that is either positive or negative. This means that the frequency of our pleasing someone can be experienced by them as either a positive pleasure or as a negative irritation.

The problem with dementia is that the patient may have great difficulty in deciding what is pleasurable and what is an irritation. Trying to please them may succeed one minute and fail miserably the next.

In trying to overcome the misery of dementia, it is necessary to overcome the pleasing as well. It is not helpful to please people, neither is it beneficial to displease them. It is beneficial to allow them to connect to their own inner source of happiness & joy.

This follows the adage of the Fisherman, where it is better to teach another how to fish than to continually give them your fish.

It does not matter how severe the complaint of dementia appears to be, the potential of the inner source of joy within is ever present. What is seldom present is our personal connection with it.

When I connect to my own inner sense of personal joy, I allow another to share it. I lead them by example to their own inner sense of being joyful. I connect to my own inner sense of joy by being joyful. I feel the fulfilment of joy when I am filled full of joy. When I am filled full of joy, I am content and happiness flows through me in abundance.

Abundance is flowing when there is nothing that I need and nothing that I want because I am connected to the source of everything. In that present moment, there is no pain, there is no misery and there is no unhappiness; just the pure joy of being alive.

Plato’s Recollection

Plato’s Doctrine of Recollection is a core concept of Philosophy because it is the key to innate wisdom, which is the gateway to empowered love.

Plato’s doctrine states that knowledge is a wisdom that is innate, which is not learned but recollected. Knowledge that we recollect is an intuitive knowing, in contrast to knowledge that is learned from physical experience.

Plato argued that whatever we already know, we have knowledge of and if we have no knowledge of something, then how can it be learned?

Plato has a clear distinction between what is someone else’s relatively true opinion and what is one’s own absolute knowledge.

Our personal experience tells us that someone else’s true opinion is based on their relative perspective & experience of physical reality, whereas absolute knowledge is the intuitive wisdom of the Soul.

Plato believed that whatever the physical Self did not know was because of a relative disconnection in their ability to recollect the inherent source of all knowledge that is their Soul.

The Soul is the source of all knowledge that the Individual Self requires on its journey through life. In its disconnection from the Soul, the Self forgets its spiritual origins and starts life from birth with a clean slate & a blank memory.

In its disconnection from its Source, the Individual Self acquires memories based on the true opinions of others. It makes choices that are influenced by the experiences & opinions of others as there is no recollection of any absolute knowledge of the purpose, reason or meaning for one’s life.

In a relatively disconnected state of being, we make choices based on our memories of past experiences that we learned from other people’s true opinions. We act on knowledge, information or intelligence that is given to us by our teachers. Our own opinions are based on a set of personal standards that we adopted from other people’s principles, morals & ethics.

Plato’s doctrines are based on his belief & his opinion that everything that he needs to know, on his personal journey through life, he already has knowledge of at the super-conscious level of the Soul. At the level of conscious physical experience, all the Self is required to do is recollect it.

It is Plato’s doctrine that whatever knowledge is required on a moment to moment basis is always available for his recollection. On his journey through life, he collects the knowledge required in each & every present moment through his connection to his omniscient Soul.

Omniscient means all knowing or having all knowledge of. For Plato, his Soul has all knowledge of his individual, exclusive & unique path through life.

The philosophical question that this presents is whether Plato’s Doctrine is based on innate divine intuitive knowledge of just his true opinion.

History tells us from experience that Individuals who follow a unique & exclusive path, in alignment with their Soul’s higher vision, mission & purpose for life, tend to be remembered as significant Historical Figures.

Dementia Is A Broken Spirit

Spirit is Conscious Energy or the energy of consciousness. It is my spiritual energy that allows my consciousness. My state of consciousness is relative to my level of spiritual energy.

My spiritual energy is a trinity of physical energy, mental energy & emotional energy. I function as a spiritual energy through the perspective of a mental mind, the perception of an emotional heart & the experience of a physical body.

My spiritual energy allows my conscious-awareness of a relatively physical, or material, experience called life.

Dementia is a disability of the conscious mind, in contrast to other mental illness, which is a disability of the sub-conscious mind. Nobody ever suffers from dementia when they are asleep.

Dementia is not an illness of the sub-conscious mind but a disconnection between the levels of conscious & sub-conscious thinking. The sub-conscious mind continues to carry out its maintenance of the physical body, irrespective of the state of the conscious mind.

Memory is never lost, it is the conscious connection, or access, to memory that is either temporarily or permanently lost. Memory is a mental energy, which is a mental aspect of spirit. Choice is a mental energy called a thought of the conscious mind.

The authority of choice is a mental energy that requires emotional power. Emotional power is an energy that flows in alignment with mental authority. Physical ability is relative to mental authority & emotional power.

Our spirit is the physical ability of the emotional power of our mental thoughts. Positive thoughts empower and raise our spirits, whereas negative thinking disempowers and makes us feel dis-spirited.

A broken spirit shuts down our ability to think empowered thoughts. Dis-empowered thinking leads to non-action and non-action fails to meet emotional or physical needs. This means that a broken spirit causes a lack of choice, a lack of power and results in a lack of action. These are all symptoms of dementia.

The paradox of dementia is: Can you break the spirit of someone whose spirit is already broken? Let us first challenge the belief that you can break someone’s spirit.

Science will tell you that Energy cannot be destroyed, it just changes form. In the case of mental energy, it change perspective. Perspective is a matter of the frequency of thought relative to the frequency of the brain waves that are processing that thought.

Perception is a matter of the wavelength of emotional energy that causes a relative feeling experience. The feeling that is experienced is relative to the gender of the emotion that accompanies the polarity of the thinking experience.

When the gender of our emotional energy is consciously perceived to have a positive polarity, it is beneficial and it is perceived to have a negative polarity when it is apparently detrimental.

When our spirits are broken, it means that our negative perspective of reality is disconnecting our perception of a good feeling experience. In the absence of a good feeling experience, we attempt to suppress our negative emotional feelings.

In the continued absence of any good feelings, our emotions become permanently suppressed. I can still choose a positive or a negative mental perspective of whatever is occurring without any awareness of how I emotionally feel about it.

A lack of emotional awareness is not a symptom of dementia. If it were, then 98% of the population would be diagnosed with it. Neither does a lack of emotional awareness cause dementia, nor is it classed as having a broken spirit.

The emotional connection to spirit can be broken or blocked whilst the mental connection to spirit remains open. In this relative dual reality world, I can choose a rational mental perspective, without any feeling of emotional perception, and still be considered to be normal.

The problem of dementia arises when, as well as being emotionally disconnected from my spiritual Source, I also become mentally disconnected as well. When both the mental & the emotional connection to spirit are broken, the symptoms of dementia are inevitable.

Dementia Is A Battle Of The Will

The Will is the authority of the sub-conscious mind.

When I say I will: I first check with my sub-conscious mind to see if my authority has enough emotional power.

I only become conscious of my will power when I do not have it, which is when I need it.

An inner conflict occurs when I have the mental will without the emotional power. At this point, I believe that I need will power, or motivation, to do what I want to do. My inner conflict is caused by my conscious mental choice being out of alignment with my sub-conscious need for emotional power.

When my emotional power is aligned with my mental authority, there is no inner conflict and I have the ability to fulfil my choice of action. When I am out of alignment, my ‘I will’ is in conflict with my ‘I Am’.

My I Am, is my emotional state of being that determines my emotional power. My will is my mental focus. My mental focus is my perspective, which is relative to my personal beliefs of what is possible for me. What is possible for me is relative to the emotional power that I have available.

Low emotional power is an effect of dementia, which is caused by the belief in what is possible or not. It contributes to the dementia by reinforcing the belief that something is not possible because of insufficient emotional power.

It is important to understand that dementia is a mental issue that causes emotional problems, not an emotional issue that causes mental problems. The most common emotional problem is a lack of will power that causes the will to choose a negative choice of non action.

The will is the mental authority of the ego Self, which allows choice. When aligned with the essence of the True Self, it is empowered to act.

I experience inner conflict when the choice of my ego Self is out of alignment with my true essential self. It is this inner conflict that causes the need for motivation, which we call will power.

My own will power is called self-motivation and I am self motivated when I am able to meet my need for emotional power myself.

When I need the motivation of other people, I need other people to supply my emotional energy need and being dependent on their emotional energy, I have to succumb to their will.

The inner conflict that I create because I cannot meet my own need for emotional power, so that I can have what I want, is different to any external conflict that I cause with other people.

The external conflict between two individual egos is caused when one person’s will is in conflict with another’s. The battle of two wills is the conflict between two egotistical belief systems.

It is often apparent with a dementia patient that, even though they may have lost their memory, their will is very much present.

When we lose our will to live, death becomes very imminent. Will power remains the driving force of all human Beings throughout their entire life.

The question is: Is the will divinely empowered or is it motivated by an emotional need?

A unique set of emotional needs is exclusive to each person individually. Understanding the individual & specific emotional interaction that a dementia patient needs is essential to being able to externally motivate them.

Remember, dementia is a mental incapacity, it is not relative to any specific emotional needs but it can affect the ability of the Individual to get their emotional needs met their self.

We all have our own unique set of emotional needs, whether we suffer with dementia or not; which means both the carer and the patient have their own unique ways of sub-consciously sourcing their emotional power.

The questions for every Carer to consider:

  1. Are you meeting the patient’s emotional needs as well as their physical needs?
  2. Are you motivating the patient or demotivating them?
  3. Are you giving them the emotional power to do your mental will or are you blocking their ability to do what you are asking?
  4. Are you creating the conflict of a battle of wills or are you bringing the the will of two different people into alignment?

Forcing one’s will onto someone who you care for is a contradiction in perspective. Would we ever force our will onto someone who we deeply care for?

There is a strongly held belief within the caring profession that you have to be cruel to be kind and in order to properly care for someone, they have to do whatever they are asked to do whenever they are asked. This goes against every principle contained within a spirit of independence.

Life is a physical experience of spiritual independence. When we break someone’s spirit we not only disconnect them from their own independent source of authority but we totally disempower them as well.

Remember, the definition of a bully is someone who forcefully drains your emotional energy. In the battle of two wills there are always two bullies fighting for supremacy with the loser becoming the victim, which makes the winner a villain.

The Relative Duality Of A Life Path

A Life Path is like a road, it always allows a choice of direction. On any path, or any road, I have a choice of direction.

It is our society that determines which side of the road that we should travel on but it is my individual choice that determines in which direction that I travel.

This mental choice of direction is called polarity. The road itself has no polarity of its own. It’s polarity is neutral. The road cannot choose my individual path through life.

My choice of direction, on my path, is relative to where I am and where I choose to be. When the direction of my path takes me to where I want to be, I see it has a positive polarity. When my choice of direction gets me lost, it has a negative polarity based on a wrong choice.

My choice of direction has a polarity, which determines my experience of life to be either good or bad and I believe through my personal experience that I am either on the right or the wrong path.

As it is not the path that has the choice, it is not the path that has the polarity. The road is bi-polar, in that it always has two possible directions of travel at the same time. Even though I am only able to travel in one direction at a time, I always have a choice of direction and a choice of polarity, which is relative to where I am and where I want to be.

Whenever I get lost, it is never the fault of the road, it is always because of the negative polarity of my choice of perspective. My choice of direction has a negative polarity whenever I perceive myself to be lost.

In actuality, from a higher perspective, I am never lost, I am just looking at my direction of travel from the wrong perspective of an uninformed choice.

When I have no clear direction of my own, I will rely on the direction given to me by other people. When I rely on other people’s direction, I will blame them when I get lost.

The real irony is that the only reason I ever get lost is because I am following someone else’s direction.

On the chosen life path of my Soul, there is always clear direction present at every junction on my path. My direction of travel is clearly laid out on the path in front of me.

We all have an inner guidance system that is a spiritual sat-nav. My spiritual satellite navigation is the navigational direction available from the satellite of my Soul.

The benefit of spiritual direction is that unlike earthly sat-nav, there are no bugs in the system.

It is the relative duality of my life path that allows a choice of direction. It is the absolute reality of my life path that allows me to choose my chosen path with absolute certainty.

It is the relative duality of my life path that allows me to choose the path most travelled by other people.

Every road has a physical sign-post and every path has a spiritual sign-post, in this relative world of dual reality.